June 5, 2018   31 notes

Anonymous asked: Hey, I've just started posting NSFW art of my own, and I wanted to ask some advice. If literally anybody that knew me IRL found out I was drawing porn in my spare time, I'd lose respect from all of them and probably alienate myself from most of them. I guess what I'm wondering is, how public are you IRL about what you do for a living, and how do you keep your personal/"normal" identity and artwork separate from what you do on this blog? (also, long-time fan here, I adore your stuff!)

blogshirtboy:

Some of my friends know what I draw (though they don’t actively seek it out), some just know that I draw porn. As I mentioned in a previous ask my family only knows that I’m a freelance illustrator.

I don’t find it too hard to keep my personal and proffessional identity separate, though I do find it a little frustrating, and over the last few years I’ve definitely stopped caring as much as I did when I first started out. It’s still something I keep very private, but I think you’d be surprised by how little people would give a care if they actually knew.

That being said, you should absolutely do whatever you’re most comfortable with. I definitely understand what it feels like to keep this kind of thing a secret.

The way I get around the anxiety is that I try not to think of what I’m doing online as a “secret.” I just consider it a part of my life that I don’t really share with too many people. In the same way you might not tell everyone you meet about how you spend your time at the gym, or how you might not tell certain people that you attend church services, etc.

Hope any of this helps! And good luck with sharing your art!

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  3. jackkerras said: If you like porn enough to create it, then why be friends with folks who aren’t able to handle that about you? This seems like a no-brainer to me; if those folks can’t handle that you do weird stuff sometimes, find folks who can. Every year that goes by I give less and less of a fuck about that kind of thing, and if I could slap 18-year-old me upside the head and tell her to celebrate rather than hide this shit, I’d do it in a Goddamn heartbeat.
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  5. aswampwitch said: I doubt you’d “lose all respect from them” anon. Plenty of big name people in the entertainment industry are known to have drawn porn at some point in their careers. Even Rebecca Sugar. If your kinks are REALLY “messed up” then there might be a stronger possibility of alienating them, but in general people don’t care that much unless you shove it in their faces.
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